Wat is seer?
Daar is baie
dinge te sê oor seer en hoekom maak mense ander seer!
Mense maak
gewoonlik ander seer omdat jy self seer het en van die seer ontslae wil raak en wil hê iemand anders moet ook jou
pyn voel. Die soort seer, kom nie van self reg nie.Jy moet gewoonlik vir
berading of terapie gaan.Emosionele seer
is baie erger as fisiese seer, aangesien ʼn skraapplek of kneusplek na tyd
verdwyn, maar die letsels in jou hart gaan nooit weg nie.
Moontlike redes hoekom mense seer maak
1.)
Hulle wat seer maak het gewoonlik stres en
trauma
Almal reageer verskillend op
emosionele pyn (sommige van ons gebruik positiewe gedrag, soos meditasie,
oefeninge en terapie en ander gebruik negatiewe gedrag, soos boelie, geweld,
drank ens.) as dit by stres en trauma kom. Baie mense praat nie oor hul
emosionele pyn nie, maar dit manifesteer op “verbloemde” maniere soos om die
mense naaste aan hulle emosioneel af te knou. Baie keer as ʼn familielid of ʼn “close”
vriend/vriendin doodgaan word jy blootgestel aan baie erge trauma. Meeste mense
weet nie hoe om positief te reageer op stresvolle en traumatiese tye nie en
hulle dink die enigste uitweg is om ander te boelie en emosioneel of fisies
seer te maak.
2.)
Aggressiewe Gedrag
As daar aggressie by die huis gebruik word teenoor kinders, dink die
kinders dit is hoe dit hanteer moet word en dan deel hul ook aggressie vir
hulle naastes uit.
3.)
Hulle was hoofsaaklik in hulle kinderdae geboelie
of selfs toe hulle volwasse was
Navorsing wys dat mense wat afgeknou was in hulle huise, omgewigns of skole
twee of selfs 3 keer meer geneig is om ander mense emosioneel seer te maak.
4.)
Moeilike huislike omstandighede
Baie keer voel mense dat hulle ouers
nie genoeg tyd saam hulle deurgebring het nie en dat hul nie geliefd is nie en
dan voel hul afgeskeep en verwerp. Of as die persone se ouers baie baklei kan
dit ook die probleem by daardie persoon veroorsaak.
5.)
Verhoudings
Mense voel altyd hulle vriendskappe en familiebande is baie veilig en hul
weet hulle familie en ware vriende sal hul nooit verwerp nie, maak nie saak
hoeveel emosionele seer daai persoon veroorsaak nie. Mense is geneig om die
mense wat baie lief is vir hul, die heel seerste te maak.
6.)
Seer mense is dikwels self-geabsorbeer met
hul eie pyn en is onbewus daarvan
ʼn Voorbeeld van hoe emosionele pyn kan ontstaan is dat in sommige huishoudings
baklei die ouers en daar word geskree en die een ouer kry emosioneel seer en dan voel hy/sy iemand anders moet ook hul pyn voel en
dan sê die persoon dinge wat hul nie bedoel nie, bv. vir sy of haar kind, dis
dan wanneer die skade gedoen word.
7.)
Seer mense is dikwels gefrustreerd en
depressief omdat pyn van die verlede voortdurend terug kom in hul huidige
bewussyn
Mense
wat seer het leef baie keer in ʼn plek
van frustrasie en depressie van al die pyn en leef dan in ʼn dimensie waar hul konstant in
konflik met ander is.
Belangrikheid van
emosionele gesondheid
Geen mens wat met emosionele pyn rondloop en dit “vertroetel” kan op die
lange duur normaal funksioneer nie. Onopgeloste emosionele pyn kan selfs
ernstige siektes in jou liggaam veroorsaak.
Wat om te doen met ʼn
emosionele siek in jou lewe?
Soos wat my Ma altyd sê as iemand
jou kwaad maak, lelik is met jou of as hulle nie van jou
hou nie , ”you
love them back to life” maar
jy raai hulle ook aan om hulp te kry om gesond te
word.
My mening:
As iemand, wat seer het, jou kwaad of seer maak, help dit altyd om te weet
dat daardie persoon self met seer rondloop. Dit verskoon egter nie sy gedrag
nie en jy kan hom help deur voor te stel dat hy “healing” kry vir sy pyn...en
jy kry dit NET van die Here af!!
There is SUPERNATURAL power in repentance and forgiveness…….
Seer mense moet al die mense wat hulle kwaad aan gedoen het,
vergewe.
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What is hurt?
There are many things to say about hurt and
why people hurt each other!
People usually hurt others because they
hurt themselves and they want to get rid of their pain and want someone else to
feel their pain as well. This kind of pain, does not go away with time. Usually
you need to go for therapy. Emotional
pain is much worse than physical pain, as a scrape or bruise disappear after
time, the scars will never disappear in your heart.
Possible reasons why people hurt……….
1.) Those who hurt, usually have stress and
trauma
Everyone reacts differently to emotional
pain (some of us uses positive behaviour, such as meditation, exercise and
therapy and others uses negative behaviour, such as bullying, violence, alcohol
etc.) When it comes to stress and trauma, many people do not talk about their
emotional pain, but it manifests itself in "disguised" as ways to
bully the people closest to them emotionally. Many times as a family member or
a "close" friend / girlfriend die you will be exposed to severe
trauma. Most people do not know how to respond positively to stressful and
traumatic incidents and they think the only way to feel better is by bullying or
emotional and physical hurt.
2.) Aggressive Behaviour
If aggression is used at home for children,
the children think that's how situations should be handled, and they share
their aggression amongst their peers.
3.) They were being bullied mostly in their
childhood but even as adults.
Research shows that people who are bullied
in their homes, schools and other surroundings are two or even three times more
likely to hurt other people emotionally.
4.) Difficult conditions at home
Many times people feel their parents do not
spent enough time with them and that their love is not real and then feel
neglected and rejected. If the child’s parents fights a lot it can also cause
problems for the child.
5.) Relationship
People sometimes feel their friendships and
family ties are very safe and they know their family and true friends will
never reject them, no matter how much emotional pain that person caused. People
tend to hurt the people who love them, the most.
6.) Hurt people are often self-absorbed
with their own pain and are unaware of it
An example of how emotional pain can rise
is the fights in some households. The parents are screaming and one parent feel
emotionally hurt and wants the other one to feel their pain and say mean things
that they do not mean, e.g. but for the child each parent is important and the
damage is done.
7.) Hurt people are often frustrated and
depressed because pain of the past constantly come back in their conscious.
People which are hurting live often in a
place of frustration and in depression of all the pain and then live in a
dimension where they are in constant conflict with others.
Importance of emotional health
No one who is walking around with emotional
pain can function normally in the long run. Unresolved emotional pain can even
cause serious illnesses in your body.
What to do with an emotional illness in
your life?
As my mother always said, if someone makes
you angry, or is mean to you or do not like you, "you love them back to
life" but you recommend them to get help.
My opinion:
If someone who has already been hurt
emotionally, makes you angry or hurt you, it always helps to know that this
person is walking with pain inside himself. This does not excuse his behaviour,
but you can help him by suggesting that he gets the "healing" for his pain... and you only get that from
the Lord !!
There is Supernatural power in Repentance and forgiveness .......
Hurt people, must forgive all those who did them wrong.
