Seer mense....maak seer

Wat is seer?

Daar is baie dinge te sê oor seer en hoekom maak mense ander seer!

Mense maak gewoonlik ander seer omdat jy self seer het en van die seer ontslae  wil raak en wil hê iemand anders moet ook jou pyn voel. Die soort seer, kom nie van self reg nie.Jy moet gewoonlik vir berading of  terapie gaan.Emosionele seer is baie erger as fisiese seer, aangesien ʼn skraapplek of kneusplek na tyd verdwyn, maar die letsels in jou hart gaan nooit weg nie.

Moontlike redes hoekom mense seer maak

1.)    Hulle wat seer maak het gewoonlik stres en trauma

Almal reageer  verskillend op emosionele pyn (sommige van ons gebruik positiewe gedrag, soos meditasie, oefeninge en terapie en ander gebruik negatiewe gedrag, soos boelie, geweld, drank ens.) as dit by stres en trauma kom. Baie mense praat nie oor hul emosionele pyn nie, maar dit manifesteer op “verbloemde” maniere soos om die mense naaste aan hulle emosioneel af te knou. Baie keer as ʼn familielid of ʼn “close” vriend/vriendin doodgaan word jy blootgestel aan baie erge trauma. Meeste mense weet nie hoe om positief te reageer op stresvolle en traumatiese tye nie en hulle dink die enigste uitweg is om ander te boelie en emosioneel of fisies seer te maak.

2.)    Aggressiewe Gedrag

As daar aggressie by die huis gebruik word teenoor kinders, dink die kinders dit is hoe dit hanteer moet word en dan deel hul ook aggressie vir hulle naastes uit.

3.)    Hulle was hoofsaaklik in hulle kinderdae geboelie of selfs toe hulle volwasse was

Navorsing wys dat mense wat afgeknou was in hulle huise, omgewigns of skole twee of selfs 3 keer meer geneig is om ander mense emosioneel seer te maak.

4.)    Moeilike huislike omstandighede

Baie keer voel mense dat  hulle ouers nie genoeg tyd saam hulle deurgebring het nie en dat hul nie geliefd is nie en dan voel hul afgeskeep en verwerp. Of as die persone se ouers baie baklei kan dit ook die probleem by daardie persoon veroorsaak.

5.)    Verhoudings        

Mense voel altyd hulle vriendskappe en familiebande is baie veilig en hul weet hulle familie en ware vriende sal hul nooit verwerp nie, maak nie saak hoeveel emosionele seer daai persoon veroorsaak nie. Mense is geneig om die mense wat baie lief is vir hul, die heel seerste te maak.

6.)    Seer mense is dikwels self-geabsorbeer met hul eie pyn en is onbewus daarvan

ʼn Voorbeeld van hoe emosionele pyn kan ontstaan is dat in sommige huishoudings baklei die ouers en daar word geskree en die een ouer  kry emosioneel seer en dan voel  hy/sy iemand anders moet ook hul pyn voel en dan sê die persoon dinge wat hul nie bedoel nie, bv. vir sy of haar kind, dis dan wanneer die skade gedoen word.

7.)    Seer mense is dikwels gefrustreerd en depressief omdat pyn van die verlede voortdurend terug kom in hul huidige bewussyn

Mense wat  seer het leef baie keer in ʼn plek van frustrasie en depressie van al die pyn en  leef dan in ʼn dimensie waar hul konstant in konflik met ander is.

Belangrikheid van emosionele gesondheid

Geen mens wat met emosionele pyn rondloop en dit “vertroetel” kan op die lange duur normaal funksioneer nie. Onopgeloste emosionele pyn kan selfs ernstige siektes in jou liggaam veroorsaak.

Wat om te doen met ʼn emosionele siek  in jou lewe?

             Soos wat my Ma altyd sê as iemand jou kwaad maak, lelik is met jou of as hulle nie van jou

             hou nie , ”you love them back to life” maar jy raai hulle ook aan om hulp te kry om gesond te      

             word.    

My mening:

As iemand, wat seer het, jou kwaad of seer maak, help dit altyd om te weet dat daardie persoon self met seer rondloop. Dit verskoon egter nie sy gedrag nie en jy kan hom help deur voor te stel dat hy “healing” kry vir sy pyn...en jy kry dit NET van die Here af!!

             

             There is SUPERNATURAL power in repentance and forgiveness…….

             Seer mense moet  al die mense wat hulle kwaad aan gedoen het, vergewe.

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What is hurt?

There are many things to say about hurt and why people hurt each other!

People usually hurt others because they hurt themselves and they want to get rid of their pain and want someone else to feel their pain as well. This kind of pain, does not go away with time. Usually you need to go for therapy.  Emotional pain is much worse than physical pain, as a scrape or bruise disappear after time, the scars will never disappear in your heart.

Possible reasons why people hurt……….

1.) Those who hurt, usually have stress and trauma

Everyone reacts differently to emotional pain (some of us uses positive behaviour, such as meditation, exercise and therapy and others uses negative behaviour, such as bullying, violence, alcohol etc.) When it comes to stress and trauma, many people do not talk about their emotional pain, but it manifests itself in "disguised" as ways to bully the people closest to them emotionally. Many times as a family member or a "close" friend / girlfriend die you will be exposed to severe trauma. Most people do not know how to respond positively to stressful and traumatic incidents and they think the only way to feel better is by bullying or emotional and physical hurt.

2.) Aggressive Behaviour

If aggression is used at home for children, the children think that's how situations should be handled, and they share their aggression amongst their peers.

3.) They were being bullied mostly in their childhood but even as adults.

Research shows that people who are bullied in their homes, schools and other surroundings are two or even three times more likely to hurt other people emotionally.

4.) Difficult conditions at home

Many times people feel their parents do not spent enough time with them and that their love is not real and then feel neglected and rejected. If the child’s parents fights a lot it can also cause problems for the child.

5.) Relationship

People sometimes feel their friendships and family ties are very safe and they know their family and true friends will never reject them, no matter how much emotional pain that person caused. People tend to hurt the people who love them, the most.

6.) Hurt people are often self-absorbed with their own pain and are unaware of it

An example of how emotional pain can rise is the fights in some households. The parents are screaming and one parent feel emotionally hurt and wants the other one to feel their pain and say mean things that they do not mean, e.g. but for the child each parent is important and the damage is done.

7.) Hurt people are often frustrated and depressed because pain of the past constantly come back in their conscious.

People which are hurting live often in a place of frustration and in depression of all the pain and then live in a dimension where they are in constant conflict with others.

Importance of emotional health

No one who is walking around with emotional pain can function normally in the long run. Unresolved emotional pain can even cause serious illnesses in your body.

What to do with an emotional illness in your life?

As my mother always said, if someone makes you angry, or is mean to you or do not like you, "you love them back to life" but you recommend them to get help.

My opinion:

If someone who has already been hurt emotionally, makes you angry or hurt you, it always helps to know that this person is walking with pain inside himself. This does not excuse his behaviour, but you can help him by suggesting that he gets the "healing"  for his pain... and you only get that from the Lord !!

            

             There is Supernatural power in Repentance and forgiveness .......

             Hurt people, must forgive all those who did them wrong.